Question:Hi Christine, I'm having trouble adjusting to dating as a single mom.
I'm a single mom and I'm in my 20's. I've been out of the dating pool for 5 years (my choice). How do I dive back into the pool and stay afloat . I don't really have anything to talk about with people unless it's about kids. Advice on dating as a single mom is very much appreciated.
Thank You, Stephanie
Answer: Dear Stephanie,
Good for you for diving back in. It sounds like you have taken some time for self reflection and to figure out what you really want in a potential partner. I would start by trying to connect with people who understand the role of parenting because they are a parent themselves. This will ease your way back in because you will immediately be connecting with other single parents. Websites like lavalife.com, match.com and plentyoffish.com allow you to select attributes like "has children" when you are performing a search. You've mentioned that you don't feel like you have anything to talk about other than kids and that is a red flag that you need more 'Stephanie' time. You may want to consider signing up for a course in something you've always wanted to learn and ask a friend or relative to babysit for you. It's very important to create balance in your own life so that you don't come across as one-dimensional to a potential partner. Branch out and explore new avenues and learn some new skills like wine-tasting, yoga or belly-dancing. You will not only feel better but you will be more attractive.
Good luck and have fun with your search.
To your authenticity,