One of the problems that women have with men is that when a man is busy doing something, he disconnects – and we give meaning to that by thinking he is disconnecting from us. We don’t know that’s what a single focused person, a hunter, does.
As women, we’re gatherers, otherwise known as the Velcro of the universe.
We’re used to being the ones that hold everything together. Whereas a hunter will remain focused, because he always has a result to produce.
Think about how different having a conversation with your girlfriend is compared to talking to your dad or your brother.
When a woman reaches out to one of her friends to talk, she’s looking to share, to be heard, and to process her feelings.
What a man hears when a woman opens up to him though, is that there’s a problem and it’s his job to fix it. See, single focus + task = result to produce.
So how does all this make us, the women of the world, the Velcro that holds it all together?
Because a woman’s job within the tribe was to hold it all together while the men were off on the hunt, she developed the skill to be the glue, or Velcro.
And because a man is single focused, when he’s finished with one task, he needs time to transition before moving on to the next task.
Here’s a scenario that might sound familiar, either because it’s happened to you, or because you’re witnessed it with your friends or maybe even your parents.
A man comes home from work and he wants to know what he’d like for dinner, when he wants to eat, and if he picked up the dry cleaning.
And his response - is silence.
As the Velcro of the Universe, the woman had it all covered, but the man is focused on only one thing at a time. In the Attract An Amazing Man Tele-series, I’ll share exactly what he needs before he can be available to her, or anything else that needs his attention.
Don’t believe me? Try it for yourself and see.
The next time you want something from a man, any man, watch and wait until he is finished with whatever task he might be focused on.
Then give him just a little bit more time, and when he’s ready to be available for you, he’ll let you know.
Of course as women, this can be much more difficult than we’d like. Because we’re so accustomed to doing ten things at once, we get frustrated when the men around don’t do the same thing.
And that’s where our trouble begins.
We make him just being who he is wrong, because he isn’t like us.
But seriously, do you really want to date or be in a relationship with someone just like you? No, of course you don’t.
Both men and women are looking to one another to find that balance that only the opposite sex can provide. That’s why just being yourself is all you need to do, to attract an amazing man.
But, and this is the key – you also have to be willing to allow him to just be himself as well.
Next week I’m going to take this one step further and shed some more light on how men and women communicate differently.
Want to get even more insight and understanding on how to attract and amazing man? I guarantee you’ll love my new soon to be released live tele-series. Click on the link below to find out more.
See you next week!
To your authenticity,
Love, Christine
